There are a lot of great memories in life – the day you hitchhiked through France or that random night out when your new friend told the best story. Most of these moments have a bit of spontaneity to them, and your wedding should too.
Your big day should be about your marriage, not your seating chart or the color scheme.
It’s a Party
The biggest days of your life are not pre-planned and scripted out to the last detail, but rather those moments that come up as surprises – the wild weekend getaways with your best friend, the spontaneous decision to re-book an already-planned vacation because it seemed like the perfect idea at the time. And so it is with your wedding day.
It is worth every favorite song and flawless dress and immaculate place setting you can throw at it, but if you are hanging your entire future on one party day, you’re selling all the other beautiful, meaningful days in your life short.
So remember that your wedding is just one party, and the real celebration is your marriage. Keep that at the forefront of your mind and you’ll be able to enjoy it more fully than you could have dreamed. The other important things in your life will take care of themselves. And if they don’t, hey, that’s okay too!
It’s a Celebration
The idea that a wedding is the most important day of a person’s life is just false. I’m sorry to burst your bubble, but the day you graduated college, got that job you wanted so badly, or the birth of your child will probably rank much higher than the day you sign a piece of paper stating your commitment to another person for the rest of your life.
That’s not to say that the day isn’t special or meaningful, but it’s just not the end of the world if something goes wrong on your wedding day. The most important thing is to focus on starting and solidifying your marriage, not worrying about how perfect the venue decor will look in the photos. Fairytales usually end with a wedding, but real life doesn’t. Your wedding is just a beautiful start to many more cherished moments and memories. So just relax and enjoy the party! (And the extra frothy cappuccino.)
It’s a Night Out
You may have a hard time believing this, but your wedding day is not the most important day of your life. Yes, it will be a beautiful celebration, but the only thing that makes it important is that you and your partner will start a marriage that lasts a lifetime.
That’s worth every favorite song and flawless dress you can dream up. It’s worth red-eye flights and meticulous planning. It’s worth a picture-perfect ballroom and immaculate place settings. But it’s not worth putting so much pressure on one day of your life that it threatens your marriage.
The world is full of special days that are truly unforgettable. Whether it’s your birthday, the day you graduate or the moment your child is born, these days should hold more importance than any wedding you’ll ever attend. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
It’s a Night In
Weddings are big parties and they certainly feel important as you go through the planning process. But the truth is that you and your partner have spent many other nights together and you will spend countless other days in the future.
There are so many things that could have prevented you from meeting your soulmate, and yet somehow you were able to do that. That is truly an amazing thing. So don’t sell all the other days of your life short by putting more value into one day than you do into the entire relationship.
That being said, your wedding does have value and shouldn’t be pushed to the side or disregarded entirely. But it’s not the greatest day of your life. Your graduation, getting your dream job, and your kids’ birthdays are all more important. That being said, I’m sure your wedding will be an incredible day! Just don’t let it be a circus.